A rather tricky situation has arisen due to a debate, that I started, on my
facebook wall, spiraling into a very very heated argument between different friends. I had disagreements with the views being expressed in one camp, but disagreements with the method of criticising these views from the other camp.
The conversation turned into a slanging match, and before one starts to ask which camp was more to blame than the other, on my behalf the crucial task is to figure our a way how to avoid upsetting either friend(s) without re-stoking this fiery argument.
This blog post is an attempt to do this. The reasons for not explaining this on
facebook are due to my feelings about the
counterproductivity of having such debates on this platform (as explained in my previous blog post) and to stay clear of the perpetual anxiety that the platform of
facebook induces, especially in this situation - thus, I have quit
facebook, making sure I can never retrace my password any time I get tempted to rejoin the hell-hole.
I am in no way attempting to take the moral high-ground here, and I am in no way trying to prove "I am right, you are wrong"; I'm just trying to ease this situation, and trying to solve this argument between people I respect (because it isn't very nice to be in middle of it!), so I don't have to explain this in the likely event of bumping into one of you after a few pints of cider, when I would be far from my most articulate!!
So here goes...
(apologies for the usage of the words 'them' and 'us' in the first section by the way, I'm using them to express they way we are encouraged to see rather than the way I actually see).Friend 1 (with slight relevance to
friend 3 also)
To begin with, although I don't agree with the method of criticising you that 'friend 2' [the name used for this post] used to react to what you wrote on my wall (and it is obvious that the person concerned friend 2 doesn't know you from some of the 'labelling' you received - although you did do some labeling yourself too) I do certainly have very different views points to you in regards to certain things you said and certain words you used.
And although I have no right to say you must change these views and don't wish to impose my own
truths on you, in this case I think it is important to at least hear me out on why I feel it is crucial to take a second look at the way you are writing these comments, because although it is not down to you personally, the wider usage of the concerned terms, in a derogatory way, can lead to ugly and dangerous forms of discrimination in society - this also diverts our eyes from the real
causations of the becoming these groups/subgroups in our society, precisely because we do not realise we are partaking in a form of discrimination.
I am of course mainly referring to the usage of the terms '
chavs' and also (but not as much) to 'youths'. I completely understand why you feel so angry and threatened when people mock you and verbally abuse you when you walk the streets, and I am in no way under the illusion that you are making this up, because, as you know, I also receive an quite of a lot of stick whilst walking the streets of our home town, and I too feel angry and intimidated because I also don't know how to react to it, or prevent it from happening. I know the avenue (
Coniston) where you catch your buses from very well, and I've seen that a lot of people who seem to have nowhere else to go (something I'll return to) hang about there. And, true my own experiences too, most of the people who are dealing out this stick do match these generalisations of young people wearing the clothing style (tracksuits etc) that are associated with the label '
chav' (although, when I've grown up with people who match this description, they are usually much more pleasant to me than anything).
However, it is important to say that
not all of the people who've laughed or shouted at me in streets fit this description - and some, in only an economic sense, are probably less '
chav' than I am! This should stop us short of using the generalising terms in the first
plae, but the issue here isn't as simple as to leave it here. So, to stick to the important issues here, it is best to stick directly to
why it might be the section of society labeled as '
chav' who would come across as more threatening and irritating to you.
NO MATTER how angry ones feels, how much the abuse makes one feel small, I think it is
crucial to see the
causations of why certain people in society may need be aggressive and openly mocking of people (not just behind closed doors like the rest of society does), and why people
may want to make other people on a street feel small and intimidated; I think it is crucial to see things systemically (and unlike what one of our friends said, seeing things systemically has nothing to do with seeing the system as an 'evil monster'). It is crucial that one takes this into account a causation in a systemic way, rather than seeing each '
chav' case as "their choice to be like that", because this causation relates to all those below a certain income level, and also relates to our own, non-abused-on-street-caused-miseries in these, often, gloomy times.
Perhaps the best place to start looking at the causation systemically is through looking at The
Summer Riots in the UK. I think it is safe to say that the lions share of those 'rioting' were 'disaffected' young people, who are either unemployed, with no hope of employment, and alienated from the
aspirationalism of our culture which is mediated to us from the top downwards. Whilst
aspirationalism and materialism is shoved down their throats from all angles, they also know that their lives are aimless, dead-ended, and, though many cannot articulate this knowledge (the poorest areas are statistically the poorest educated, and also the areas that are most bombarded by aspirational advertisements -watch out for all the billboards in poor communities - diverting focus to materialism instead) they do sense that all this is out of their control. The poorest sections of the society are also the areas which are being hit hardest by the welfare cuts. It's lose lose, whilst the adverts say 'win win' and those at the top say "it's your fault if you aren't
winning".
The reaction, (the rioting) was (apart from, maybe, the organised opportunists who capitalised on the disorder) a violent but objectless/aimless rage; self-destructively striking out at their own communities; a pure expression of anger but with no direction, no knowledge of what caused this anger; the looting of consumer goods, which only unintentionally made comment on the rampant consumerism and selfishness of
aspirationalism which has turned our culture into a culture more about 'haves and have
nots' than it has been since Victorian times. They have been intentionally left in the dark about the reasons for their lowliness and poverty, and now after 30 years of this, with kids growing up knowing no different, being told to 'expect things to get even worse' the rioting
really did (to quote my friend Adam
Denton) "feel like the system expressing itself"
This isn't a diversion from the issue of '
Chav' because the systemic changes which have created a section of society whom we are all told scorn for their lowliness, has also been supplying the
tindersticks that caused these riots. The language, and organisations which may have once united such a section of society, and given them a clear picture of their oppressor, has been crushed by the
neoliberal system brought in by Thatcher.
To understand why there is this section of our society which is more-or-less an underclass, not "underclass" in the sense of the words usage in the reaction of "how can they be working class if they don't even bother working?!" (which is an oversimplification) but in a sense of a section of society that it has been politically convenient to blame them for their own poverty, lack of education etc, one has to look closely at what happened when the Thatcher's conservatives took control in 1979 (one could look much further at British history, but it would mean a massive diversion from the point of this post).
Their
pre-planned series of systemic changes to jolt Britain into being a more free-market, more competitive system, undercut the traditional working class jobs, and the areas in which they were based. Now I am in no way saying that the era before this (the 1945-1979
postwar consensus era) was perfect, as it wasn't; and, in a landscape sense, things are a lot greener now the heavy industries such as the coal mines (for example) have gone. But these ethics were in no way part of the Tories agenda; they wanted to defeat workers' solidarity, so they could get rid of unions and re-gear the system into an ultra-competitive one.
Thatcherism's rhetorics, such as "greed is good", "there is no such thing as a society" and "anyone who is still relying on public transport over the age of 25 can deem themselves a failure" (in aide of promoting a nation of car owners, rather than shared transport) weren't just reactionary comments spouted, they were
memes ("an idea, behaviour or style that spreads from person to person within a culture" - Merriam-Webster Dictionary) injected into our culture, to change it's dynamics. Now, competition and 'the freedom of the market' may not sound such bad words on their own, but they were used against words like
'sharing, community, togetherness', and, more importantly, those who benefit from the free market and competition are nearly always those at the top of the income pile already (with only minor exceptions - as even musicians from lower income backgrounds are finding it harder and harder to 'make it' these days - read this for more on that
http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2011/jun/14/pulp-festivals). This meant that the rich were getting richer and richer, and the poorer were either not moving, or more likely suffering from the destruction of the old industries, and finding that they weren't getting anywhere no matter how competitive they were being in this now-named 'land of opportunity'.
So, as the illusion of opportunity for everyone was a myth (and those who already had the lions share, started to take more and more)
Thatcherism's attempts at breaking worker ('class) solidarity had also won over, words such as 'working class' solidarity' 'togetherness' giving way to a new language in our culture about competition, aspiration, where "every can make it so everyone must try", with the flip-side of this being "if you don't make a good life for yourself it is your own fault, you just haven't tried hard enough" (even though it was a 'rigged race' to start with). We were conned into believing that our society had 'progressed to a stage of 'classlessness', from where those who were lowly just couldn't be arsed do well for themselves, and just didn't "appreciate" education and culture, and were deserving of scorn.
So basically, the entire society was being infiltrated with these
memes of selfishness, whilst the old words to describe 'class' injustices, and capitalist exploitation were being erased.(conveniently for the ruling class, around this time the Soviet Union - the worlds example, all-be-it, an woefully bad example, of communism was collapsing, allowing the capitalist ruling class and their political advocates to pronounce that 'there is no alternative to [*insert* free market] capitalism). What this meant was that those at the bottom, who were increasingly prone to more exploitative jobs, or no hope of employment at all, was that the language there to describe their exploitation/the way they had been screwed over, had been replaced with a language of affluence, which although may sound enticing, erases the places from where one could vent their frustration, and got them basically speaking and talking words which would further exploit them and further enhance the elite.
This, over the past 30 years, has created a viscous exacerbating cycle, where scorn aimed at this bottom section of society, who no longer have the available language to retaliate, and have only the language of the selfishness which has shit on them already, has made this section of society feel constantly under attack. They, in turn, have acted out with more hostility to the rest of society, thus heightening the scorn, and so forth. And because it has been politically essential (to not upset
neoliberalism, and the power it wields over the political class) not to see problems in society as having a political causation, all the government could do was to turn to reactionary measures when there was disorder amongst the 'disaffected', such as
ASBO'S and High-Pitched noises outside bus stations. "Naughty people! Start behaving, or else!" So, thus, in this depoliticised culture, the alienation and frustration of this section of society could only grow.
I think you can tell how under-threat a person is feeling, by the manner in which he/she walks, interacts: there is a need to constantly be on the self-defence for those from a discriminated section of society and this is noticeable in macho walking styles and 'cocky' body gestures, and it is interesting to notice this in all discriminated sections of societies all over the world, from the British 'underclass' to the poorer, and even more discriminated, black communities in the USA.
In relation to the discriminated-against black communities of the USA, it seems that those sections of society most exploited and left vulnerable by the system, seem to be the ones that drape themselves in the most materialistically brash, and most heavily branded clothing and jewellery. The poorest communities tend to be the ones with least access to an education which might help them become critical of the materialism of capitalism, and poor areas are generally the areas were the big brands can stain the walls with their product adverts until there is no room left - basically, rampant materialism becomes the only language really available at all. When one thinks of '
bling' they usually also think the word '
chav' or they associate it with the music from those US ghettos -
RNB/HIP-HOP, which might explain why this is the music which is usually associated with '
chavs' here in the UK. The heavily branded, '
blingy' clothing/jewellery etc, also seems to act as an act of self-defence by those who feel most threatened and powerless - with the language of class politics hidden from view, all one can when the are right down at the bottom is to use the only given, the
aspirationalist materialism, to the max.
And I think all these things sum-up what as a society we now class as a '
chav'.
Now where do we come into this, being, traditionally speaking, working class too? Well, I find this passage from the essay 'outline of a beginning' by the philosopher Alain
Badiou (written in 1968, but used in a 201o publication due the persistent relevance of it) very appropriate, as it deals with the task of 'bringing about political and practical unity between disparate groups', which, in relation to the predicament in our nation at the moment, the disparate groups would be us - who it may be appropriate here to label as 'the educated working class - and the '
chav's - who it may be appropriate to label as 'the uneducated working class.
"The bourgeoisie [the historical name for the capitalist class] to some extent relies for its politico-social defence upon the ideology of a gap
between the middle strata [who, in our term
s should be seen as us; the educated and so-called 'cultured' working class']
(employees, cadres, supervisors, civil servants)
and the proletariat [who, in our terms should be seen as the 'uneducated working class'].
If these two groups united in any practical sense, it would pose a deadly threat to the employers' class power."
"Now, awareness of the gap is conveyed by 'culture' and supported by the cornerstone of academic edifice: the distinction between the intellectual labour and manual labour. It is therefore essential to educate the 'middle strata' on a mass but differentiated basis: giving them a taste of secondary, or even higher, education marks in indelible terms their sense of distance and their fear of being proletarianized".
Although
the lines of separation that distance may be at a different threshold between us 'the educated working class' and those who society called 'the
chavs', the terms are still the same: "
If these two groups united in any practical sense, it would pose a deadly threat to the employers' class power". what I am saying is that discriminating against '
chavs' (or even going as far as to use the label in the first place) we perpetuate that gap which stops us seeing the bigger picture of our subordination of both groups by the capitalist class.
It is generally 'the educated working class' who are fearful, thus discriminatory, of '
chavs' because we are the closest to them, and we are more fearful of becoming 'down and out' like them. This, in turn, heightens the already present resentment those from the '
chav'-labeled section of society have for us, because, in the 'alternative' clothes/music, the books we read, the 'good job's we search for, we reek of the systemic '
scumification' of them, because we are draped in the language forced on us by the capitalist class, that blames the '
chavs' and calls them poor due to their own choice to be lazy and stupid.
This is the reason why when hatred and resentment is expressed at students in society, it isn't aimed at the likes who occupy the
Bullingdon Club, but at the students who come from lower middle/educated working class backgrounds. Without knowing it, through intentional systemic meddling, they are scorning the bottom section of society for problems which in reality are out their control, in a culture which is all about 'haves and have
nots'.
So, it's in our interests, if we want to see a better future, to see the section of society labeled as '
chav' in this context, and no as our enemies. I'm in no way saying that we shouldn't go to university, dress differently, or stop going to art galleries, but just that we should be careful not to be driven by the
aspirationalist memes to do these things, as this is how the gap is created, to neither sections' benefit. The abuse may not stop on the streets we walk, but try to remember that that abuse is not really
meant for you, and if we know this, there may be hope that they will too.
I am in no way wanting you to become as politicised as me, but please take all into consideration.
See you on Wednesday evening anyway!!
Friend 2First of all, by meeting you in person I realise you have a massively larger pool of intellectual resource to take from than I have, and, although it is not a competition, I know I cannot match this. It was indeed very enlightening to meet you - you said you learnt a lot from your trip to Sheffield, well, so did I!
However, in regards to this strange (for me) situation, I do think you have built up a very wrong picture of '
friend 1' (and 'friend 3') from the argument you had with him on facebook. As I have explained in the previous section, I certainly don't agree with
friend 1's usage of terms such as 'chav also, but the way you criticised him seem to take for granted an image of him being quite a self-assured, arrogant person - but this is not the case at all. And I think that this leads to an important point: I think both of you may have come across as very very different people to whom you really are in the non-facebooked world. I think you miss-judged him as someone far more self-assured when you told him to 'go kill himself'. If he was cock-sure of himself, he would have laughed this off, but not being so, I don't think he did.
As I mentioned in my previous post, I'm not sure if the make-up of facebook can actually make room for democratic debate, but instead just encourages one to bolster the image of themselves that they have projected onto the site, at all costs. Thus, I think that a difference of views on facebook can only lead to online hostilities. I sometimes think that challenging views on facebook can only serve to harden the already expressed views concerned, in an act of self-preservation. Basically I just don't think it's possible to make anyone change their minds, or reconsider their views on facebook. And the angrier we get, the more one loses people.
You are right that your challenges on people on facebook can 'unmask' their bigotry and racism from behind their supposedly 'liberal' mask, but, regarding friend 1 and 3, if you met them I'm pretty sure they would not strike you as being this sort of person, and I think you'd actually find yourselves listening to each other, and they'd probably be interested in your many thoughts you share!! I think that sometimes, due to this incessant anxiety for self-preservation, spread by the facebook
memes, anger can be caused by a lack of self-esteem and self-assurance rather than a fear of an unmasking of supposedly 'liberal' views to find that somebody isn't all so tolerant after all.
Of course I think this is often the case! So much of my thinking is taken up by the fact that many people make up lies about how liberal they are in order to cover up very uncomfortable realities. However, although, as you said "nostalgia, and familiarity stand for nothing with friendship', what I suppose has kept me and
friend 1 in close contact for so long is maybe down to a shared sensitivity to things (all be it, sometimes sensitive about different things) and I know that
friend 1 is more likely to react out of anxiety about him feeling that he is being attacked in general, or being made a fool of, than rather what in particular he is being criticised for. We aren't just people who went to school with each other so feel compelled to appropriate our friendships on facebook, we are friends in the physical world also.
He certainly does feel intimidated by these people who are present where he catches his bus. It's a difficult one, because I understand that feeling like this makes him angry, but I don't agree with the labelling of people of course. To ask him to see thing systemically is my only advice I could give. But I must admit, I suffer from low self-esteem when anyone mocks me also, no matter what knowledge I have that informs me to rise above this feeling. But, to me now, it is essential to see it systemically, even if this drains me of massive amounts of energy whilst actually experience the physical world.
The initial reason why I didn't join the argument before it truly escalated was because I didn't know how to put "I didn't agree with friend 1's views but I didn't agree with your initial method of criticism" in a way which would calm the situation. And this wasn't the only reason I had for quitting facebook, but it certainly was the instigator of something Ive been trying to do for a long time. So, maybe some good has come out of all this? But I hope to have more 'face to face discussions with you soon, that'd be great. Maybe one day you could meet
friend 1 face to face? - mind you, it might just be best letting it go now.
I'm sure I'll see you in London at some point this weekend anyway!!